The Ever-Shifting Balance Between Resources & Dreams

(from Carl Richard's New York Times' Bucks blog, 9/20/2011 - click here for the original post.  Carl  is a Certified Financial Planner in Park City, Utah. His sketches are archived on the Bucks blog and on his personal Web site, www.BehaviorGap.com.)

Most of us have limited resources, like time, money, energy and skills. At the same time, we have needs, goals and dreams. All too often they exceed the limited resources we have, so balancing these two areas of our personal economy can be tricky. We also need to understand that over time both of these circles change.

Sometimes the resources we have will be greater and allow us to do more of the things we want. Other times our needs and wants will seem to dwarf the limited resources we have to throw at them.
But it’s not something that we decide once and then check off the list. It’s a challenge we have to revisit regularly. So here’s how to think about both of the circles.

First, we need to stop focusing on things outside our control. When we do that, we miss opportunities during both good times and bad (like now) to find our financial balance. Don’t put off making important and necessary adjustments, because no one else will do it for you.

Second, we need to be honest about whether our goals are realistic given our resources. You may want to retire at 50, but if you haven’t been saving money regularly, that’s not likely to happen. Aim for things that really matter to you, but don’t set yourself up to fail before you ever start. Remember: your goal is maintaining balance, not achieving perfection.

Finally, look for new ways to make the balancing act work for you. Only you know your goals and only you understand what resources you can dedicate to achieving your dreams. Get the help you need to figure out the details, but it’s up to you to keep these two areas in balance.

It’s amazing the changes that I see in people once they figure out how to match their dreams with their resources. They worry a lot less day to day about things they have no control over. They spend more time with the people they love and doing things that make them happy. Even if their balance between resources and goals doesn’t look like anyone else’s, it’s still getting them where they want to go.

And that is all that matters.